Testosterone
Male hormones, particularly testosterone, are the
aggression hormones that cause men to hunt and kill
prey. Testosterone is largely responsible for human
survival, as it drove men to catch food and fight off
attackers. It is also the hormone that makes men's
beards grow, causes baldness, deepens voices and
improves spatial ability. Bass baritones have been
shown to enjoy more than double the number of ejaculations
in a week than tenors, and most people given a
course of testosterone have less difficulty reading maps
and street directories. Interestingly, left-handedness and
asthma have also been linked to testosterone and it is
now known that men who smoke or drink excessively
have reduced levels in their blood.
The downside of testosterone for modern males is
that unless it is allowed to vent itself in a physical
outlet, it may create aggression and can cause antisocial
problems. As testosterone surges through their
bodies, boys aged between 12 and 17 enter the highest
male crime bracket. Give a passive man testosterone
and it will fire him up and he'll become more assertive
and self-reliant. The same dosage given to a woman can
same degree of chemical effect as for a man. His brain
is pre-wired to react to testosterone while a woman's is
not. The reason for this is still uncertain, but it is
obviously related to spatial ability.
Women should watch out for lefthanded,
bald, bearded accountants
with baritone voices who read
maps and sneeze at the same time.
As men reach their 50s and 60s, testosterone decreases
and they become less aggressive and more nurturing.
For women, the reverse happens. After menopause,
oestrogen levels decrease giving them a bigger ratio of
testosterone to oestrogen. This is why women
aged 45-50 suddenly become more assertive and
more self-reliant. The downside is that these women
are more likely to grow facial hair and suffer stress
and strok
When They're Both Stressed
When They're Both Stressed
Uptight men drink alcohol and invade another country.
Uptight women eat chocolate and invade shopping
centres. Under pressure, women talk without thinking
and men act without thinking. That's why 90% of
people in jails are men and 90% of people who see therapists
are women. When men and women are both
under pressure it can be an emotional minefield as each
tries to cope. Men stop talking and women become
worried about it. Women start talking and men can't
handle it. To help him feel better she tries to encourage
him to talk about the problem, which is the worst thing
she can do. He tells her to leave him alone and retreats
to another location.
Men need to understand that
when a woman is stressed, she
wants to talk, and all he needs
to do is listen, not offer solutions.
Because she's also under pressure, she wants to talk
about her problems, which frustrates him even more.
When he retreats to his rock she feels rejected and
unloved and calls her mother, sister or friends.
Uptight men drink alcohol and invade another country.
Uptight women eat chocolate and invade shopping
centres. Under pressure, women talk without thinking
and men act without thinking. That's why 90% of
people in jails are men and 90% of people who see therapists
are women. When men and women are both
under pressure it can be an emotional minefield as each
tries to cope. Men stop talking and women become
worried about it. Women start talking and men can't
handle it. To help him feel better she tries to encourage
him to talk about the problem, which is the worst thing
she can do. He tells her to leave him alone and retreats
to another location.
Men need to understand that
when a woman is stressed, she
wants to talk, and all he needs
to do is listen, not offer solutions.
Because she's also under pressure, she wants to talk
about her problems, which frustrates him even more.
When he retreats to his rock she feels rejected and
unloved and calls her mother, sister or friends.
The crying game
The Crying Game
Women cry more than men. Because of the way men
evolved they don't cry much, especially in public, and
social conditioning reinforces this. When a boy is
playing football and suffers a really painful injury he
might fall to the ground screaming, but a wild-eyed
coach shouts, 'Get up! Don't show the opposition they
hurt you! Be a man!'
The sensitive New Age Guy, however, is now
expected to cry any time, any place. He is encouraged
to cry by therapists, counsellors, magazine articles and
at retreats where men hug each other around camp
fires, deep in the forest. Modern men are accused
of being cold or dysfunctional if they don't 'let it
all out' at every opportunity. Because a woman's brain
can connect emotion to other brain functions it is
obvious why she can cry or become emotional under
most conditions.
Real men do cry., but only when the
emotion segment of the brain is engaged.
Real men do cry but only when they are tapping the
emotion segment of the brain, and men will rarely let
this happen in public. So be suspicious of the man who
does it regularly in public. Women have superior
sensory abilities compared to men. They receive more
detailed information than men and are more able to
express emotionally and verbally how they feel. A
woman may cry at being insulted because an insult is
usually emotionally charged but a man may not even be
aware that he has been insulted. It literally doesn't
mean much to him.
Women cry more than men. Because of the way men
evolved they don't cry much, especially in public, and
social conditioning reinforces this. When a boy is
playing football and suffers a really painful injury he
might fall to the ground screaming, but a wild-eyed
coach shouts, 'Get up! Don't show the opposition they
hurt you! Be a man!'
The sensitive New Age Guy, however, is now
expected to cry any time, any place. He is encouraged
to cry by therapists, counsellors, magazine articles and
at retreats where men hug each other around camp
fires, deep in the forest. Modern men are accused
of being cold or dysfunctional if they don't 'let it
all out' at every opportunity. Because a woman's brain
can connect emotion to other brain functions it is
obvious why she can cry or become emotional under
most conditions.
Real men do cry., but only when the
emotion segment of the brain is engaged.
Real men do cry but only when they are tapping the
emotion segment of the brain, and men will rarely let
this happen in public. So be suspicious of the man who
does it regularly in public. Women have superior
sensory abilities compared to men. They receive more
detailed information than men and are more able to
express emotionally and verbally how they feel. A
woman may cry at being insulted because an insult is
usually emotionally charged but a man may not even be
aware that he has been insulted. It literally doesn't
mean much to him.
Monogamy and Polygamy
Monogamy and Polygamy
Polygamy is where a man or woman has more than
one partner at one time. By now you may have reached
the conclusion that the human species is not monogamous
by nature. Certainly, during most of our
evolution, more than 80% of all human societies were
polygamous societies, mainly for survival reasons.
Some men think monogamy is
what furniture is made out of.
Monogamy means that one male is permanently paired
with one female, which is the natural state for a number
of animal species, such as foxes, geese and eagles.
Monogamous male and female animals are generally the
same physical size and parenting responsibilities are
divided 50/50. In polygamous species, the males are
usually bigger, more colourful, more aggressive and have
minimal involvement in parenting. The males of polygamous
animals mature sexually much later than the
females so that competitive conflicts are avoided between
the older males and younger, inexperienced males who
are less likely to survive a fight. Human males fit the
physical specifications of polygamous species; it's no
wonder men have a constant battle to stay monogamous.
Polygamy is where a man or woman has more than
one partner at one time. By now you may have reached
the conclusion that the human species is not monogamous
by nature. Certainly, during most of our
evolution, more than 80% of all human societies were
polygamous societies, mainly for survival reasons.
Some men think monogamy is
what furniture is made out of.
Monogamy means that one male is permanently paired
with one female, which is the natural state for a number
of animal species, such as foxes, geese and eagles.
Monogamous male and female animals are generally the
same physical size and parenting responsibilities are
divided 50/50. In polygamous species, the males are
usually bigger, more colourful, more aggressive and have
minimal involvement in parenting. The males of polygamous
animals mature sexually much later than the
females so that competitive conflicts are avoided between
the older males and younger, inexperienced males who
are less likely to survive a fight. Human males fit the
physical specifications of polygamous species; it's no
wonder men have a constant battle to stay monogamous.
Men are Microwaves, Women are Electric Ovens
Men are Microwaves, Women are
Electric Ovens
Male drive is like a microwave - it ignites instantly
and operates at full capacity within seconds, and can be
turned off just as quickly when the meal is cooked.
Women's drive is like an electric oven - it heats
slowly to its top temperature and takes a lot longer to
cool down.
The following graph shows the sex drives of average
men and women throughout their lifetimes. It has not
been adjusted to reflect the various periods in life where
drives may be higher or lower based on environmental
factors such as births, deaths, courtship, retirement,
and so on. To demonstrate sex drive differences we've
simplified this graph to illustrate the differences.
A man's testosterone level slowly decreases as he gets
older and his sex drive decreases accordingly. The
average woman's sex drive gradually increases so that
her sexual peak is between the ages of 36-38, which
explains the 'toy boy' syndrome of the older
woman/younger man. Younger men have the physical
performance level an older woman craves. A man's
sexual performance level at age 19 is more compatible
with a woman in her late 30s to early 40s. You will also
notice on the chart that the sex drive of a man in his 40s
is compatible with a woman in her early 20s which
partly explains the older man/younger woman combination.
There is usually a 10 to 20-year age difference
between these older/younger combinations.
When we say a man's sex drive peaks at age 19 and
falls in later life, we are talking about his physical performance
level. His interest in sex is usually high for most
of his life, meaning that he can be just as interested at 70
as he was at 30 but his performance level is not as high.
A woman can be very interested in sex in her late teens
(because of its relationship to love) but feel limited desire
for sex. She can have the same interest in her 30s but at
that time she also has a greater desire for it.
Electric Ovens
Male drive is like a microwave - it ignites instantly
and operates at full capacity within seconds, and can be
turned off just as quickly when the meal is cooked.
Women's drive is like an electric oven - it heats
slowly to its top temperature and takes a lot longer to
cool down.
The following graph shows the sex drives of average
men and women throughout their lifetimes. It has not
been adjusted to reflect the various periods in life where
drives may be higher or lower based on environmental
factors such as births, deaths, courtship, retirement,
and so on. To demonstrate sex drive differences we've
simplified this graph to illustrate the differences.
A man's testosterone level slowly decreases as he gets
older and his sex drive decreases accordingly. The
average woman's sex drive gradually increases so that
her sexual peak is between the ages of 36-38, which
explains the 'toy boy' syndrome of the older
woman/younger man. Younger men have the physical
performance level an older woman craves. A man's
sexual performance level at age 19 is more compatible
with a woman in her late 30s to early 40s. You will also
notice on the chart that the sex drive of a man in his 40s
is compatible with a woman in her early 20s which
partly explains the older man/younger woman combination.
There is usually a 10 to 20-year age difference
between these older/younger combinations.
When we say a man's sex drive peaks at age 19 and
falls in later life, we are talking about his physical performance
level. His interest in sex is usually high for most
of his life, meaning that he can be just as interested at 70
as he was at 30 but his performance level is not as high.
A woman can be very interested in sex in her late teens
(because of its relationship to love) but feel limited desire
for sex. She can have the same interest in her 30s but at
that time she also has a greater desire for it.
The Case of the Flying Crockery
The Case of the Flying Crockery
Author Barbara Pease was unaware that the new contraceptive
pill she had been given contained a high level
of testosterone. Her husband, Allan, quickly learned
the valuable art of ducking from flying plates and other
airborne objects during Barbara's PMT phase, and
rediscovered his childhood facility for the shortdistance
sprint. Interestingly, her parallel parking
abilities - or lack thereof - no longer started arguments.
They improved dramatically on this pill.
Blood tests eventually revealed Barbara's testosterone
excess and she changed to a pill without it. Within a
month, her mood swings had virtually ceased, but now
Allan felt he was living with a librarian studying to be
a nun. Another change of pill raised her testosterone
level back up to a happy medium, much safer both for
their marriage, and the household crockery.
Author Barbara Pease was unaware that the new contraceptive
pill she had been given contained a high level
of testosterone. Her husband, Allan, quickly learned
the valuable art of ducking from flying plates and other
airborne objects during Barbara's PMT phase, and
rediscovered his childhood facility for the shortdistance
sprint. Interestingly, her parallel parking
abilities - or lack thereof - no longer started arguments.
They improved dramatically on this pill.
Blood tests eventually revealed Barbara's testosterone
excess and she changed to a pill without it. Within a
month, her mood swings had virtually ceased, but now
Allan felt he was living with a librarian studying to be
a nun. Another change of pill raised her testosterone
level back up to a happy medium, much safer both for
their marriage, and the household crockery.
The aphrodisiac myth
The Aphrodisiac Myth
Of the hundreds of popularised aphrodisiacs around,
none have been scientifically shown to work. They
work on what is called the placebo effect - if you
think it will work, it probably will. Some socalled
aphrodisiacs can even help inhibit or
constrain sexual desire, particularly when they irritate
the kidneys, and cause itching and rashes. The only
aphrodisiacs guaranteed to work are those on the list
of what turns us on.
Of the hundreds of popularised aphrodisiacs around,
none have been scientifically shown to work. They
work on what is called the placebo effect - if you
think it will work, it probably will. Some socalled
aphrodisiacs can even help inhibit or
constrain sexual desire, particularly when they irritate
the kidneys, and cause itching and rashes. The only
aphrodisiacs guaranteed to work are those on the list
of what turns us on.
Testosterone and spatial ability
Testosterone and Spatial Ability
You may have already reached the conclusion that
because spatial skill is one of the strongest male attributes,
it is linked to testosterone. In Chapter 3 we saw
how testosterone is mainly responsible for configuring
the brain of the genetic male foetus (XY) and installing
the 'software' related to the spatial abilities required for
hunting and chasing. Consequently, the more testosterone
the body produces, the more male-orientated the
brain's behaviour will be. Male rats which are injected
with additional male hormone find their way out of a
maze quicker than normal male rats. Female rats also
improve their navigational performance, but not as dramatically
as the males. The aggression level of both
sexes increases.
In the Brain-Wiring Test, high testosterone males score
between -50 and +50 and usually have less difficulty
with map-reading, orienteering, playing video games or
hitting a target. They have fast-growing beards, love
'hunting' sports like football, billiards and motor racing
and are good reverse parkers. Testosterone is also the
hormone that aids single-mindedness and helps avoid
fatigue. Studies show that volunteers injected with
testosterone show greater endurance in physical activi
ties such as walking and long-distance running, and can
concentrate for longer periods of time. Not surprisingly,
lesbians also have many of these attributes. Susan
Resnick of the Institute of Ageing in the US reported in
her findings that girls who received abnormal amounts
of male hormone in the womb also had far superior
spatial skills compared to their sisters who did not
receive the hormone.
You may have already reached the conclusion that
because spatial skill is one of the strongest male attributes,
it is linked to testosterone. In Chapter 3 we saw
how testosterone is mainly responsible for configuring
the brain of the genetic male foetus (XY) and installing
the 'software' related to the spatial abilities required for
hunting and chasing. Consequently, the more testosterone
the body produces, the more male-orientated the
brain's behaviour will be. Male rats which are injected
with additional male hormone find their way out of a
maze quicker than normal male rats. Female rats also
improve their navigational performance, but not as dramatically
as the males. The aggression level of both
sexes increases.
In the Brain-Wiring Test, high testosterone males score
between -50 and +50 and usually have less difficulty
with map-reading, orienteering, playing video games or
hitting a target. They have fast-growing beards, love
'hunting' sports like football, billiards and motor racing
and are good reverse parkers. Testosterone is also the
hormone that aids single-mindedness and helps avoid
fatigue. Studies show that volunteers injected with
testosterone show greater endurance in physical activi
ties such as walking and long-distance running, and can
concentrate for longer periods of time. Not surprisingly,
lesbians also have many of these attributes. Susan
Resnick of the Institute of Ageing in the US reported in
her findings that girls who received abnormal amounts
of male hormone in the womb also had far superior
spatial skills compared to their sisters who did not
receive the hormone.
Some surefire romance tips for men
Some Surefire Romance Tips for Men
Women don't have a problem when it comes to love and
romance, but most men are in the dark about it so they
simply make sure they're ready for love any time, any
place. A man's romantic skills (or lack thereof) play a
significant part in whether a woman will feel like having
sex with him, so here are six tried and tested things that
work as well for men today as they did 5,000 years ago.
He's breathing:
1. Set the environment. When you consider a woman's
sensitivity to her surroundings and the high receptiv
ity of her senses to outside stimuli, it makes sense
that a man pays attention to the environment.
Women's oestrogen hormones make her sensitive to
the right lighting - dimly-lit rooms make pupils
dilate, so people look attractive to each other and
skin blemishes and wrinkles are less noticeable. A
woman's superior hearing means the right music is
important, and a clean, secure cave is better than one
that can be invaded by children or other people at
any moment. Women's insistence on sex in private
explains why most women's private fantasy is of
having sex in public, while a man's private fantasy is
sex with a stranger.
2. Feed her. Having evolved as a lunch-chaser, you'd
think it would occur to a man that providing a
woman with food stirs up primal female feelings.
This is why taking a woman to dinner is a significant
event for her even when she's not hungry because the
provision of food shows his attention to her wellbeing
and survival. Cooking a meal for a woman has
an even deeper intrinsic meaning as it brings out
primitive feelings in both a man and a woman.
3. Light a fire. Collecting wood and lighting a fire to
give warmth and protection has been done by men
for women for hundreds of thousands of years, and
appeals to most women's romantic side. Even if it's a
gas fire that she can light easily herself, he needs to
light it if he wants to set a romantic atmosphere. The
pay-off comes from the act of providing for her
needs, not from the fire itself.
4. Bring flowers. Most men do not understand the
power of a bunch of fresh flowers. Men think, 'Why
spend so much money on something that will be dead
and thrown out in a few days?' It makes sense to a
man's logical mind to give a woman a pot plant
because, with constant care and attention, it will
survive - in fact, you could even make a profit on it!
However, a woman doesn't see it that way - she
wants a fresh bunch of flowers. After a few days the
flowers die and are thrown out, but this presents an
opportunity for him to buy another bunch and once
again bring out her romantic side by providing for
her needs.
5. Go dancing. It's not that men don't want to dance,
it's just that many of them don't have the location in
the right brain required to feel rhythm. Go to any
aerobics class and watch the male participants (if any
turn up) trying to keep time. When a man takes
dancing lessons for basic rock 'n' roll and waltz, he
will be the hit of the party with all women. Dancing
has been described as a vertical act of horizontal
desire and that's its history - it's a ritual that evolved
to allow close male/female body contact as a lead-up
to courtship, just as it did with other animals.
6. Buy chocolates and champagne. This combination
has long been associated with romance, although few
people know why. Champagne contains a chemical
not found in other alcoholic beverages which
increases testosterone levels. Chocolate contains
phenylethylamine which stimulates a woman's love
centre in the brain. Recent research by Danielle
Piomella at the Neurosciences Institute in San
Diego discovered three new chemicals called Nacylethanolamines,
which attach themselves to the
cannabis receptors in a woman's brain, giving her
sensations similar to being high on marijuana. These
chemicals are in brown chocolate and cocoa, but not
in white chocolate or coffee
Women don't have a problem when it comes to love and
romance, but most men are in the dark about it so they
simply make sure they're ready for love any time, any
place. A man's romantic skills (or lack thereof) play a
significant part in whether a woman will feel like having
sex with him, so here are six tried and tested things that
work as well for men today as they did 5,000 years ago.
He's breathing:
1. Set the environment. When you consider a woman's
sensitivity to her surroundings and the high receptiv
ity of her senses to outside stimuli, it makes sense
that a man pays attention to the environment.
Women's oestrogen hormones make her sensitive to
the right lighting - dimly-lit rooms make pupils
dilate, so people look attractive to each other and
skin blemishes and wrinkles are less noticeable. A
woman's superior hearing means the right music is
important, and a clean, secure cave is better than one
that can be invaded by children or other people at
any moment. Women's insistence on sex in private
explains why most women's private fantasy is of
having sex in public, while a man's private fantasy is
sex with a stranger.
2. Feed her. Having evolved as a lunch-chaser, you'd
think it would occur to a man that providing a
woman with food stirs up primal female feelings.
This is why taking a woman to dinner is a significant
event for her even when she's not hungry because the
provision of food shows his attention to her wellbeing
and survival. Cooking a meal for a woman has
an even deeper intrinsic meaning as it brings out
primitive feelings in both a man and a woman.
3. Light a fire. Collecting wood and lighting a fire to
give warmth and protection has been done by men
for women for hundreds of thousands of years, and
appeals to most women's romantic side. Even if it's a
gas fire that she can light easily herself, he needs to
light it if he wants to set a romantic atmosphere. The
pay-off comes from the act of providing for her
needs, not from the fire itself.
4. Bring flowers. Most men do not understand the
power of a bunch of fresh flowers. Men think, 'Why
spend so much money on something that will be dead
and thrown out in a few days?' It makes sense to a
man's logical mind to give a woman a pot plant
because, with constant care and attention, it will
survive - in fact, you could even make a profit on it!
However, a woman doesn't see it that way - she
wants a fresh bunch of flowers. After a few days the
flowers die and are thrown out, but this presents an
opportunity for him to buy another bunch and once
again bring out her romantic side by providing for
her needs.
5. Go dancing. It's not that men don't want to dance,
it's just that many of them don't have the location in
the right brain required to feel rhythm. Go to any
aerobics class and watch the male participants (if any
turn up) trying to keep time. When a man takes
dancing lessons for basic rock 'n' roll and waltz, he
will be the hit of the party with all women. Dancing
has been described as a vertical act of horizontal
desire and that's its history - it's a ritual that evolved
to allow close male/female body contact as a lead-up
to courtship, just as it did with other animals.
6. Buy chocolates and champagne. This combination
has long been associated with romance, although few
people know why. Champagne contains a chemical
not found in other alcoholic beverages which
increases testosterone levels. Chocolate contains
phenylethylamine which stimulates a woman's love
centre in the brain. Recent research by Danielle
Piomella at the Neurosciences Institute in San
Diego discovered three new chemicals called Nacylethanolamines,
which attach themselves to the
cannabis receptors in a woman's brain, giving her
sensations similar to being high on marijuana. These
chemicals are in brown chocolate and cocoa, but not
in white chocolate or coffee
Modern man hunting
Modern Man's Hunting
Sport is the modern replacement for hunting. Most
sporting activities began after the year 1800; prior to
that, most of the world's population still hunted animals
for food or recreation. The Industrial Revolution of the
late 1700s and advanced farming techniques meant that
it was no longer necessary to chase and catch food.
Thousands of years of men being programmed to hunt
suddenly came to a stop and had nowhere to go.
Sport became the answer. More than 90% of modern
sports were created between 1800 and 1900 and a few
new ones appeared during the 20th Century. Most
sports involve running, chasing and hitting targets and
allow high testosterone individuals to burn up excess
hormones. Research shows that boys who are physically
active are the least likely to be involved in crime or
aggression, and that young men with criminal records
showed the least involvement in sports. Simply, if it's
not burnt up on a playing field, it can show up in antisocial
ways. On motorways and freeways, road-rage
has been almost entirely a male offence. Men compete
with each other on the road - women just happen to be
there at the time.
Before enrolling in a sports club, examine the objectives,
values, role-models and leaders of the club. If
they're in it 'for the game' and the game is allimportant,
then these people are still slaves to their
biology - so join a fishing club. There are many clubs
like yoga or martial arts that still teach the principles
for effective living such as health, relaxation and sound
life values. Avoid any clubs that emphasise the financial
gains members might make.
Sport is the modern replacement for hunting. Most
sporting activities began after the year 1800; prior to
that, most of the world's population still hunted animals
for food or recreation. The Industrial Revolution of the
late 1700s and advanced farming techniques meant that
it was no longer necessary to chase and catch food.
Thousands of years of men being programmed to hunt
suddenly came to a stop and had nowhere to go.
Sport became the answer. More than 90% of modern
sports were created between 1800 and 1900 and a few
new ones appeared during the 20th Century. Most
sports involve running, chasing and hitting targets and
allow high testosterone individuals to burn up excess
hormones. Research shows that boys who are physically
active are the least likely to be involved in crime or
aggression, and that young men with criminal records
showed the least involvement in sports. Simply, if it's
not burnt up on a playing field, it can show up in antisocial
ways. On motorways and freeways, road-rage
has been almost entirely a male offence. Men compete
with each other on the road - women just happen to be
there at the time.
Before enrolling in a sports club, examine the objectives,
values, role-models and leaders of the club. If
they're in it 'for the game' and the game is allimportant,
then these people are still slaves to their
biology - so join a fishing club. There are many clubs
like yoga or martial arts that still teach the principles
for effective living such as health, relaxation and sound
life values. Avoid any clubs that emphasise the financial
gains members might make.
Why men are promiscuous
Why Men Are Promiscuous
Where does marriage fit into the lifestyle of an animal
species that has a biologically promiscuous male?
Promiscuity is wired into a man's brain and is a legacy
of his evolutionary past. Throughout human history,
wars greatly diminished the numbers of men so it made
sense to add to the size of the tribe as often as possible.
The number of men returning from battle was usually
lower than at the start. This meant that there was
always a large number of widows, so creating a harem
for the returning males was an effective survival
strategy for the tribe.
Giving birth to boys was seen as a wonderful event
because additional males were always needed to defend
the community. Girls were a disappointment because
the tribe invariably had an excess of females. This is the
way it was for hundreds of thousands of years. In
addition, modern man is still equipped with a large
hypothalamus and enormous amounts of testosterone
to fulfil his ancient urge to procreate. The reality is that
men, like most primates and other mammals, are not
biologically inclined to complete monogamy.
The huge male-oriented sex industry offers pertinent
proof. Practically all pornography, erotic videos, prostitution
and X-rated Internet images are directed at men,
showing that while most men can live in a monogamous
relationship, their brain-wiring demands polygamous
mental stimulation. It has to be understood,
however, that in discussing men's urge to be promiscuous,
we are talking about biological inclinations. We
are not promoting promiscuous behaviour or providing
men with an excuse for infidelity. We live today in a
world that is completely different to that of our past,
and our own biology is often completely at odds with
our expectations and demands.
Human biology is
dangerously out of date.
The fact that something may be instinctive or natural
doesn't mean that it's good for us. The brain circuitry
of a moth gives it an instinctive attraction towards
bright lights and this allows the moth to navigate at
night using the stars and the moon. Unfortunately, the
modern moth is also living in a world that is dramatically
different to the one in which it evolved. We now
have moth and mosquito zappers. By doing what is
natural and instinctive, the modern moth flies into the
zapper and is incinerated instantly. In understanding
their biological urges, modern men have a choice of
avoiding self-incineration as a result of doing what
comes naturally.
There's a small percentage of women who are as
promiscuous as men, but their motivation is usually
different to that of men. To be turned on sexually, the
brain circuitry of the nest-defending human female
responds to a range of criteria other than just the
promise of sex. Most women want a relationship or at
least the possibility of some emotional connection
before they feel the desire for sex. Most men don't
realise that once a woman feels an emotional bond has
been created, she will happily bonk his brains out for
the next three to six months. With the exception of the
rare percentage of nymphomaniacs, most women feel
the strongest urge for physical sex during ovulation
which can last several days or several hours.
If unrestrained, most men would fall into a bottomless
pit of mindless fornication to guarantee survival of
the tribe. A survey conducted by the American Health
Institute showed that 82% of boys aged 16-19 said
they liked the idea of participating in an orgy with
strangers, while only two percent of girls felt the same.
The rest found the idea appalling.
A woman wants lots of sex with the man
she loves.
Where does marriage fit into the lifestyle of an animal
species that has a biologically promiscuous male?
Promiscuity is wired into a man's brain and is a legacy
of his evolutionary past. Throughout human history,
wars greatly diminished the numbers of men so it made
sense to add to the size of the tribe as often as possible.
The number of men returning from battle was usually
lower than at the start. This meant that there was
always a large number of widows, so creating a harem
for the returning males was an effective survival
strategy for the tribe.
Giving birth to boys was seen as a wonderful event
because additional males were always needed to defend
the community. Girls were a disappointment because
the tribe invariably had an excess of females. This is the
way it was for hundreds of thousands of years. In
addition, modern man is still equipped with a large
hypothalamus and enormous amounts of testosterone
to fulfil his ancient urge to procreate. The reality is that
men, like most primates and other mammals, are not
biologically inclined to complete monogamy.
The huge male-oriented sex industry offers pertinent
proof. Practically all pornography, erotic videos, prostitution
and X-rated Internet images are directed at men,
showing that while most men can live in a monogamous
relationship, their brain-wiring demands polygamous
mental stimulation. It has to be understood,
however, that in discussing men's urge to be promiscuous,
we are talking about biological inclinations. We
are not promoting promiscuous behaviour or providing
men with an excuse for infidelity. We live today in a
world that is completely different to that of our past,
and our own biology is often completely at odds with
our expectations and demands.
Human biology is
dangerously out of date.
The fact that something may be instinctive or natural
doesn't mean that it's good for us. The brain circuitry
of a moth gives it an instinctive attraction towards
bright lights and this allows the moth to navigate at
night using the stars and the moon. Unfortunately, the
modern moth is also living in a world that is dramatically
different to the one in which it evolved. We now
have moth and mosquito zappers. By doing what is
natural and instinctive, the modern moth flies into the
zapper and is incinerated instantly. In understanding
their biological urges, modern men have a choice of
avoiding self-incineration as a result of doing what
comes naturally.
There's a small percentage of women who are as
promiscuous as men, but their motivation is usually
different to that of men. To be turned on sexually, the
brain circuitry of the nest-defending human female
responds to a range of criteria other than just the
promise of sex. Most women want a relationship or at
least the possibility of some emotional connection
before they feel the desire for sex. Most men don't
realise that once a woman feels an emotional bond has
been created, she will happily bonk his brains out for
the next three to six months. With the exception of the
rare percentage of nymphomaniacs, most women feel
the strongest urge for physical sex during ovulation
which can last several days or several hours.
If unrestrained, most men would fall into a bottomless
pit of mindless fornication to guarantee survival of
the tribe. A survey conducted by the American Health
Institute showed that 82% of boys aged 16-19 said
they liked the idea of participating in an orgy with
strangers, while only two percent of girls felt the same.
The rest found the idea appalling.
A woman wants lots of sex with the man
she loves.
What men need to do
What Men Need to Do
One of the best compliments a man can pay a woman is
not to 'ogle' inappropriately at another female, particularly
in public, but to give his partner a simultaneous
compliment. For example, 'Sure, she's got great legs, but
I'll bet she doesn't have a great sense of humour ... she's
not in the same league as you, darling.' When this type
of complimentary approach is used in the presence of
other people, especially her friends, it pays big dividends
to the man with the courage to try it. Women need to
understand that a man is biologically compelled to look
at certain female shapes and curves, and that they
shouldn't feel threatened by it. An easy way for a
woman to take the pressure off a man is for her to notice
the other woman first and make the first comment. A
man also needs to understand that no woman appreciates
inappropriate ogling.
One of the best compliments a man can pay a woman is
not to 'ogle' inappropriately at another female, particularly
in public, but to give his partner a simultaneous
compliment. For example, 'Sure, she's got great legs, but
I'll bet she doesn't have a great sense of humour ... she's
not in the same league as you, darling.' When this type
of complimentary approach is used in the presence of
other people, especially her friends, it pays big dividends
to the man with the courage to try it. Women need to
understand that a man is biologically compelled to look
at certain female shapes and curves, and that they
shouldn't feel threatened by it. An easy way for a
woman to take the pressure off a man is for her to notice
the other woman first and make the first comment. A
man also needs to understand that no woman appreciates
inappropriate ogling.
Using spartial to solve problem
Using Spatials to Solve Problems
The different ways men 'sit on their rock' include
reading a newspaper or magazine, playing squash,
fishing, tennis, golf, fixing something or watching television.
A man who is under pressure is likely to invite
another man to play golf and when they play, there will
be limited conversation. The man with the problem goes
into his right brain to use his spatial skills to play golf
and can use this area to simultaneously work out
solutions for his problem. It seems that stimulating his
spatial area speeds up the problem-solving process.
The different ways men 'sit on their rock' include
reading a newspaper or magazine, playing squash,
fishing, tennis, golf, fixing something or watching television.
A man who is under pressure is likely to invite
another man to play golf and when they play, there will
be limited conversation. The man with the problem goes
into his right brain to use his spatial skills to play golf
and can use this area to simultaneously work out
solutions for his problem. It seems that stimulating his
spatial area speeds up the problem-solving process.
The complate shout out
The Complete Shut-Out
This is one of the least understood stress differences
between men and women. A man will completely shut
everyone out when he is under extreme stress or needs
to find a solution to a serious problem. A man totally
disconnects the part of his brain that controls emotion,
goes into problem-solving mode and stops talking.
When a man uses the complete shut-out, it can be terrifying
for a woman because she only does this when she
has been hurt, lied to or abused. A woman assumes that
this must also be the case with a man - she must have
hurt him and he doesn't love her anymore. She tries to
encourage him to talk but he refuses, thinking she
doesn't have faith is his ability to solve his problems.
When a woman feels hurt, she shuts off and a man
thinks she needs space and so he goes to the pub with
his friends or cleans the carburettor in his car. If a man
completely shuts off, let him do it, he'll be fine. If a
woman shuts off, there's trouble brewing and it's time
for deep discussion.
This is one of the least understood stress differences
between men and women. A man will completely shut
everyone out when he is under extreme stress or needs
to find a solution to a serious problem. A man totally
disconnects the part of his brain that controls emotion,
goes into problem-solving mode and stops talking.
When a man uses the complete shut-out, it can be terrifying
for a woman because she only does this when she
has been hurt, lied to or abused. A woman assumes that
this must also be the case with a man - she must have
hurt him and he doesn't love her anymore. She tries to
encourage him to talk but he refuses, thinking she
doesn't have faith is his ability to solve his problems.
When a woman feels hurt, she shuts off and a man
thinks she needs space and so he goes to the pub with
his friends or cleans the carburettor in his car. If a man
completely shuts off, let him do it, he'll be fine. If a
woman shuts off, there's trouble brewing and it's time
for deep discussion.
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