How to find the right partner

How to Find the Right Partner
Love starts with lust which can last a few hours, a few
days or a few weeks. Next comes infatuation which
lasts, on average, 3 to 12 months before attachment
takes over. When the blinding cocktail of hormones
subsides after a year or so, we now see our partner in
the cold light of day and those little habits we found so
endearing at first begin to become irritating. Once you
thought it was cute that he could never find things in
the fridge, but now it makes you want to scream. He
used to love hearing you talk about every little thing
but now he's contemplating murder. You silently ask
yourself, 'Can I live like this for the rest of my life?
What do we have in common?'
The flower of love is the rose. After
three days all the petals fall off and
you're left with an ugly, prickly thing.
Chances are you don't have much in common or much
to talk about. Nature's objective is to throw men and
women together under the influence of a powerful
hormonal cocktail that causes them to procreate and
not think. Finding the right partner means deciding
what things you will have in common with someone in
the long-term, and to do this in advance of nature's
blinding hormonal highs. When infatuation has passed -
and pass it will - can you maintain a lasting relationship
based on friendship and common interests? Write a list
of the traits and interests you want in a long-term
partner and then you'll know exactly who you are
looking for. A man will have a list of qualities for his
ideal mate but when he goes to a party, his brain is fired
up by testosterone. It then searches for the 'ideal'
woman based on hormonal motivation - nice legs, flat
stomach, round bum, good breasts, and so on, all
features connected with short-term procreation.
Women want a man who is sensitive and caring, has a
V-shaped torso and a great personality, all things
connected to child-rearing, lunch-chasing and protecting.
These are also short-term biological needs and have
little to do with success in a modern relationship. When
you write a list of the desirable long-term characteristics
in your perfect partner and keep it handy, it helps you
to be objective about a new person the next time nature
tries to control your thoughts and urges.
Nature wants you to procreate as often as possible
and it uses powerful drugs to push you into it. When
you understand this and are armed with a job description
of your ideal long-term mate, you are less likely to
be tricked and more likely to be successful in your hunt
for that elusive perfect partner with whom you'll be
finally able to live happily ever after.